There are a lot of reasons why people choose to stay single. Some stay single because being in a relationship is not a part of their priority. While others remain single because they feel better and happier that way.
On the other hand, some people choose not to be involved with others romantically due to what they had experienced in their previous relationship. And some remain single simply because they can’t find someone whose personality will be compatible with theirs.
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One aspect social scientists today look into as a factor that could affect one’s romantic relationship is none other than their intelligence. As unbelievable as it sounds, psychologists believe that people who are intelligent and smart have more difficulty in finding and sustaining love.
Here are the reasons why intelligent people stay single according to studies:
 Intelligent people are over thinkers!
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According to a study conducted by Alexander Penney of Ontario’s Lakehead University, there is a significant correlation between verbal intelligence and overthinking, worrying, and anxiety. Due to their tendency to think too much, intelligent people cannot help but analyze even the smallest and least of details. Thus, they tend to give meaning to every actions and word of their potential partner.
They are always in doubt about their potential partner’s motive and loyalty, to the point that sometimes they do not give them a chance to prove themselves anymore. In the process of thinking about the pros and cons of dating their potential partner, the disadvantages outweigh the advantages. Hence, they remain single.
 Intelligent people choose their career and goals over love!
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Intelligent people have a clear goal in their mind. And since they have already made it clear to themselves that it is what they want to achieve in a given time frame, their focus is on the prize and on the prize alone. And in the process of doing everything to chase after their dreams, they do not have time for love anymore.
Sure, some smart people entertain romantic dates here and there, but taking the relationship into something more serious and demanding of their time and attention will never happen. Love simply is not on the top of their list.
 Intelligent people enjoy being independent!
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Smart people love their own company! In fact, according to recent studies, intelligent people find low satisfaction in depending on other people. They take pride in being able to feel secure and complete without the validation of others. They may be single, living alone with no one to snuggle with at night and yet they are genuinely happy!
Also, they are already comfortable living by themselves, not having to think about how a significant person in their life would feel about their decisions and actions. Hence, they tend not to engage in a romantic relationship that will only restrict the freedom that they have.
 Intelligent people have a high standard!
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Since intelligent people have a clear picture of what they want, they do not settle for anything that falls beneath their standards. They will never compromise what they want nor will they settle for something less simply because the people around them are tying the knot, and exploring the world with their significant other.
Intelligent people will never settle down with a person who they are not 100% sure of, even if this means they have to remain single.
 Intelligent people are intimidating!
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Intelligent people tend to scare people. Due to their intellectual superiority, a potential partner tends to steer out of their way in fear of appearing foolish in front of them. Some think that they are out of their league, while others hesitate to pursue them for fear of rejection.
However, may we not forget that intelligent people are still people. Underneath their superior exterior, is a heart that is capable of understanding and perceiving human emotions. Instead of being afraid of their strong personality, try to engage in a conversation with them. You might end up surprised to find out that you have something in common!
 Intelligent people hate losing!
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It can be frustrating to be in a relationship with someone who is intellectually superior. Why? because smart people have a hard time accepting that they can be wrong at times. Arguments won’t stop until their partners have proven to them that they are wrong or vice versa. And for a relationship to work, both party must listen to each other with an open mind and an understanding heart.
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Regardless of the reason why a person chose to stay single, only one thing matters… they are happy with their choice. Just because someone is not involved in a romantic relationship does not necessarily mean that they are lonely. And just because someone is in a relationship does not mean that they are happier.
What is important is that you are working on yourself and growing as an individual, you are comfortable in your own skin, and you love yourself!