Why Do People Stay In Bad Relationships?
On Instagram, we see lots of photos of couples laughing hysterically in each other’s arms. With that, it’s quite easy to assume that all couples are perfectly happy in their relationship. In reality, however, these relationships aren’t as perfect as they look. This raises the question: “why do people stay in bad relationships?”
Here are four reasons some people choose to remain with their partner despite relationship pitfalls:
1. They Are Worried About Their Partners
Staying in a relationship does not always mean you are madly in love with your partner. A study by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology said even though some people aren’t crazy about the relationship they are in, they still decide to stay if they feel their partner wants them to.
Wanting to end a relationship doesn’t entail that you already have zero feelings for your partner. Even when things go sour, you still might have some moral obligation left in you that keeps you from leaving your partner alone and helpless.
2. They Are Afraid Of Being Alone
Your relationship may not be the epitome of a perfect couple. Still, the thought of being single and alone can be terrifying. With that, some people prefer to be in a mediocre relationship than to break up and go on with their lives without a partner.
3. They Value Their Partner’s Commitment
Even though someone is not as happy as they were before in their relationship, they are less likely to initiate a breakup if they see how committed their partner is to them. Imagine your man driving you home every day, taking you to the movies every Saturday, brings you flowers every week, and texting you sweet goodnights. It’s hard to muster the courage to break up with someone that committed.
4. They Still Hope Things Will Get Better
It’s not easy to be in a bad relationship, but for some people, staying in an unsatisfactory relationship is a lot than having to say goodbye. Besides, if things are going sour right now does not mean that it will always be that way. Lots of people who choose to stay with their partners silently believe that things will get better soon. They are faithful that if they remain loyal and patient with their relationship, they will eventually get over the obstacle they are currently facing.
When it comes to seemingly bad relationships, separation sounds like the most logical thing to do, but we don’t think that applies to all cases. After all, you have already invested a lot of time and resources on the relationship. Before deciding to part ways, it’s worth looking into the bright side of the situation and sees if there is still some light you can hang on to.
Have you been in a bad relationship? Can you relate with any of the reasons mentioned above?