What Is Forgiveness?
To forgive is to release the feelings of bitterness, anger or vengeance you have toward a person who has harmed you regardless of whether they deserve your forgiveness. According to psychologists, forgiveness is a conscious and deliberate decision to let go of the hurt caused by people’s action so you can attain the inner peace you richly deserve.
You would of course immediately say: “Easier said than done!”
And we won’t say you’re wrong, because it takes to time heal and much more to forgive someone. No one can force you to forgive, there will come a time when you will realize that your happiness is much more important than keeping a space in your mind for people who have caused you pain.
Here are seven powerful sayings that will help put into perspective why forgiveness is a gift you can give to yourself.
1. Forgive those who insult you, attack you, belittle you or take for granted. But more than this… forgive yourself for allowing them to hurt you. — Juno Cristi
2. When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. — Catherine Ponder
3. Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving someone’s offense or betrayal. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim–letting go of the pain and transforming oneself from victim to survivor. ― C.R. Strahan
4. The wisdom of forgiving : It does not mean giving people the license to hurt you over and over again. It is simply an act of releasing the pain others may have caused and remembering never to let them take away your PEACE again. — Dodinsky
5. Forgiving isn’t something you do for someone else. It’s something you do for yourself. It’s saying, “You’re not important enough to have a stranglehold on me.” It’s saying, “You don’t get to trap me in the past. I am worthy of a future. I’m moving on to peace and happiness.” — Jodi Picoult
6. Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. But should they finally confess and repent, you will discover a miracle in your own heart that allows you to reach out and begin to build between you a bridge of reconciliation. — Paulo Coelho
7. Because forgiveness is like this: a room can be dank because you have closed the windows, you’ve closed the curtains. But the sun is shining outside, and the air is fresh outside. In order to get that fresh air, you have to get up and open the window and draw the curtains apart. — Desmond Tutu